Salutations Everyone!
I just wanted to talk about something that I think it is important for me to address on behalf of my single-parent-scholars and hardworking women who are juggling many things in their lives…
Weary/Tired vs. Lazy
I’m in a single-mom group on Facebook called “Single MOMtreal” and a lot of women have said that their exes had called them lazy…
I remember being in university full-time (studying Biochemistry, Theology and Scientific Research), with 2 children (one of whom was 3 months old), while holding down a job, and having someone calling me LAZY because my house wasn’t in order… Now, when I mean it wasn’t in order, it was NOT a pig stye or anything, there were not dirty dishes all over the place, or anything like that, my house just wasn’t spotless all of the time… I for one, love a clean house, when things are clean, I can focus better…But given my responsibilities, having my house as clean as I wanted it wasn’t always “in the cards”… By the time the kids were fed, bathed, and in bed, it was time for me to do my homework…And sometimes, when my homework was done, it was “wee” hours in the morning, and it was almost time to wake up for the next busy school/workday…So I seldom had time to do a thorough cleanup…There would be times when the kids were finally asleep, and I felt like I was crippled: I didn’t even have the energy to move from where I had sat down…I wanted to do so much, but I had zero energy… My desire to want to do so much, yet have zero energy sometimes made me cry…Knowing that I was giving my all, and still being called lazy, was painful…
Now this is for all of my superwomen out there… This is for the women who are juggling more than one thing in their lives… Whether you are a career woman pursuing a hobby or a passion, a single-mother, a mother with a spouse, a single-parent-scholar, or whatever… You need to remember 2 things (for now):
1). NEVER ACCEPT BEING CALLED LAZY IF YOU KNOW WITHIN YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE GIVING LIFE EVERYTHING THAT YOU’VE GOT!
If there are some things in your life that need your attention but they are being neglected, most-likely, it isn’t because you are LAZY, it is because you are WEARY.
Let’s “SCHOOL” these people who wrongfully accuse you of being lazy…
The definition of “lazy” is:
“unwilling to work or use energy.”
Whereas the definition of “weary” is:
“physically or mentally exhausted by hard work, exertion, strain, etc.;”
or
“lacking strength, energy, or freshness because of a need for rest or sleep.”
So we see that there is a big difference between being “lazy” and “weary”…
Next thing for you to remember:
2). NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS IN A ‘SIMILAR’ SITUATION!
How many of us have said something like this to ourselves: “She is a single-mom too, how come her house is always in order and she always looks so well-put-together?”…I know I have questioned myself many times…We have to stop comparing ourselves to other people because we are all different…We are not all built the same; some of us just have more energy than others… Only YOU know how much you can endure…Only YOU will know when you don’t have enough energy to do something…
Give yourself some credit!
And mamas, it is okay for your home to be a hot mess as long as the environment is still healthy, and you and the kids are healthy, fed, clean and happy!
That’s all for now! Have a great weekend!
